Oklahoma Coercive Control Recovery Therapy | Heal, Grow & Thrive
Reclaim the Assertive Self You Had to Abandon
Restoring Your Confidence & Voice.
Sound Familiar?
If you resonate with these experiences, you're not alone.
Do certain personalities make you feel steamrolled or muted?
Do you override your intuition letting the wrong people into your life?
Were you unable to express your needs & emotions, fearing repercussions?
Was your reality twisted to fit someone else’s narrative?
Healing from Emotional Neglect & Betrayal
Growing up or being in relationships where your emotional needs are dismissed can make you feel devalued or even owned. Whether it’s a parent, sibling, family member, partner, boss, or "friend," these betrayals can make it hard to trust yourself or others. When you're held responsible for walking on eggshells to prevent deeply upsetting them, it can create a long struggle of feeling shameful for not always thinking the best of others, needing boundaries, saying no, disagreeing, asking for what you need, or honoring your thoughts, wants, and needs as valid. The concept of self-love might feel foreign, but the right therapy can help you reconnect with the part of you that was left behind—creating a stronger, more resilient version of yourself.
It makes sense if you’re tired of not knowing who to trust.
Identifying Coercive Control with the BITE Model
Behavior Control: Were you manipulated or pressured into specific actions, routines, or behaviors? Did you feel restricted in your daily life or unable to make choices freely?
Information Control: Was access to information limited or distorted? Were you only provided with selective or misleading information to influence your perceptions and decisions?
Thought Control: Did you experience pressure to align your thoughts and beliefs with those of a dominant figure? Did you feel your personal opinions were suppressed or invalidated?
Emotion Control: Were your emotions manipulated to maintain control? Did you feel guilt, fear, or anxiety instilled to keep you compliant or dependent?
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All the emotions you had to suppress, along with the emotional instability or intensity projected onto you…
build up like a bottle on the brink of bursting, wearing down your nervous system. It wouldn't surprise me if you have chronic health problems, autoimmune issues, or identify as a highly sensitive person. The emotions we suppress don’t disappear; we just delete our awareness of them. They will continue to ramp up until we tend to them and nurture them.
In therapy we can gradually reverse this process.
What Healing Looks Like
Restored Self-Worth: They have a renewed sense of self-worth and confidence. They understand their value and no longer let others undermine or dismiss their needs and feelings.
Healthy Boundaries: They set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships, ensuring they are respected and not taken advantage of.
Trust in Themselves: They trust their own judgment and intuition, making decisions that align with their true needs and desires without second-guessing.
Authentic Relationships: They cultivate relationships based on mutual respect and honesty, surrounded by people who genuinely support and cherish them.
Emotional Resilience: They manage their emotions more effectively, having developed coping skills and resilience to handle challenges without being overwhelmed.
Clarity and Peace: They experience mental clarity and emotional peace, free from the confusion and manipulation that once clouded their perceptions.
Self-Love and Compassion: They genuinely practice self-love and compassion, treating themselves with the same kindness and understanding they offer others.
Empowered Decisions: They make empowered decisions that reflect their true values and goals, leading to a more fulfilling and authentic life.
Healing from Past Trauma: They have processed and integrated past traumas, no longer allowing these experiences to dictate their present and future.
Joy and Fulfillment: They find joy and fulfillment in their personal and professional lives, moving forward with a renewed sense of purpose and possibility.
I’m a deep listener who can help you reconnect with the parts that you’ve had to abandon.
I can show you the skills so you can process your emotions without feeling overwhelmed.
We can untangle your thoughts from your feelings so you can have clarity.
Dissolve troubling moments from the past, freeing you from the triggers so they no longer bring you down.
Feel Like a Million Puzzle Pieces?
Hi! I’m Kelcy Eckels, a Licensed Professional Counselor in Oklahoma.
My passion lies in guiding people who are “too nice” to rediscover a profound sense of inner security.
My therapy consists of in-depth learning about yourself, where you eventually learn how to be your own productive therapist.
Ready to Believe in Yourself Again?
My goal is for you to walk away from our sessions with something productive to practice or think about.
Clients come to me looking for genuine compassion for what they experienced on a deeper level, productive, non-ruminating guidance, & practical steps to regain a sustainable feeling of wholeness.
I Get You
You may have experienced years of empty reassurance or pressure to move past your emotions, which were crucial alerts about significant issues.
This may have led to deactivating and bottling up these vital signals, resulting in anxiety today.
It can also contribute to challenges in trusting yourself and your intuition and a pattern of auto-connecting with the wrong people.
These factors might be hindering your career and close relationships, preventing you from reaching the next level.
Let's lighten & brighten up your heart again- get back to feeling like you!
Start with a complimentary 15-minute secure video-phone consult & let’s see if we are a good fit!
Online Therapy
My clients love online sessions. They find it more comfortable, allowing them to relax in their own space and take notes during our sessions. Being in their everyday environment for therapy, they are applying session focus throughout the week much more than in-person therapy, accelerating their overall progress.
It's especially convenient for busy individuals since there's no need for commuting.
Rest assured, my technology is highly secure, surpassing even online banking. You can get a feel personally for it in the free initial consultation! Scheduling is quick and easy through my online system.
What You Can Expect…
Initially, our focus may be on cultivating emotional grounding skills.
These tools will equip you to explore your feelings without becoming overwhelmed.
This foundational work enables us to delve into both your present situations and past experiences, connecting them where relevant to foster a healing understanding.
My ultimate goal is to empower you to become your own compassionate and insightful guide, mastering the art of effectively caring for your emotional well-being.
Ready to start your journey?
You may be used to being the helper, so receiving help may feel odd.
Being the helper may be “too much” of your identity. And it’s time to make room for balance.
As a natural giver, you may be used to detecting the emotions or needs of others more than yourself.
This can leave you overwhelmed with the feelings of others…while accidentally skipping over your own. Your heart continues to go on unresolved, festering in the background.
Feeling overwhelmed? You're not just managing your own stress and emotions; you're also navigating the struggles of others.
