Oklahoma Therapy for Those Affected by Narcissistic & Emotionally Unstable People
Freeing Yourself from Emotional Control & Developing Inner Clarity.
Sound Familiar?
Do certain personalities make you feel steamrolled or muted?
Do you override your intuition letting the wrong people into your life?
Were you unable to express your needs & emotions?
Was your reality twisted to fit someone else’s narrative?
If you resonate with these experiences, you're not alone.
In the Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse,
“Sorry” becomes something else entirely.
It’s not just a word.
It’s a heaviness—
the weight of carrying fault that was never yours.
And it doesn’t start that way.
It starts with being lifted up.
Admired. Needed. “Seen.”
You’re praised for your empathy, your intuition, your ability to give.
That’s what makes it so confusing later on.
Because the unraveling is slow.
So slow, you barely notice.
It doesn't look like harm at first—
It looks like being the favorite.
But gradually, your needs become inconvenient.
Your no’s create conflict.
And your empathy? It becomes the very thing used to keep you quiet.
The peacekeeper has been conditioned to believe they’re the cause of every problem.
Even when the narcissist is the one creating chaos,
the peacekeeper gets blamed.
Accountability? Always off-limits for the narcissist.
So the peacekeeper absorbs it.
They begin to doubt their perceptions.
They silence their gut.
They try to stay small, stay agreeable, stay “good”—
because being wrong is dangerous.
Over time, this creates something deeper than anxiety.
It’s eroded autonomy.
Learned self-doubt.
They start hesitating in daily decisions,
questioning their competence,
and shrinking in their own life.
It’s almost like a mirror image of “weaponized incompetence.”
But instead of avoiding responsibility,
the peacekeeper learns to take on all of it.
Even what was never theirs.
And over time, they begin to believe they’re incapable—
not because they are,
but because trusting themselves has always ended in pain.
This is grief.
Not just for what happened,
but for the parts of themselves they had to abandon to survive it.
Rebuilding Self-Trust Isn’t Just Healing—It’s Recovery From Emotional Starvation
After so much blame, distortion, and slow erasure,
you don’t just struggle with anxiety.
You second-guess your instincts,
even when they’re quietly screaming the truth.
You wonder:
“What if I’m the problem?”
But here’s the truth:
You were trained to ignore yourself—
so someone else could avoid accountability.
And healing means gently undoing that training.
Self-trust isn’t built by forcing confidence.
It’s restored by choosing yourself in the small moments.
Noticing what feels off.
Letting a no be enough.
Holding space for your needs,
even if they were always labeled as “too much.”
This isn’t just empowerment.
It’s reconnection.
With your gut.
With the part of you that never stopped knowing what was real.
It wouldn't surprise me if you have chronic health problems, autoimmune issues, or identify as a highly sensitive person. The emotions we suppress don’t disappear; we just delete our awareness of them. They will continue to ramp up in our system until we tend to them and nurture them.
Therapy can gradually rewire the brain for healing and growth
I’m a deep listener who can help you reconnect with the parts that you’ve had to abandon.
I can show you the skills so you can process your emotions without feeling overwhelmed.
We can untangle your thoughts from your feelings so you can have clarity.
Dissolve troubling moments from the past, freeing you from the triggers so they no longer bring you down.
Feel Like a Million Puzzle Pieces?
Hi! I’m Kelcy Eckels, a Licensed Professional Counselor in Oklahoma.
My passion lies in guiding people who are “too nice” to rediscover a profound sense of inner security.
My therapy consists of in-depth learning about yourself, where you eventually learn how to be your own productive therapist.
Ready to Believe in Yourself Again?
My goal is for you to walk away from our sessions with something productive to practice or think about.
Clients come to me looking for genuine compassion for what they experienced on a deeper level, productive, non-ruminating guidance, & practical steps to regain a sustainable feeling of wholeness.
I Get You
You may have experienced years of empty reassurance or pressure to move past your emotions, which were crucial alerts about significant issues.
This may have led to deactivating and bottling up these vital signals, resulting in anxiety today.
It can also contribute to challenges in trusting yourself and your intuition and a pattern of auto-connecting with the wrong people.
These factors might be hindering your career and close relationships, preventing you from reaching the next level.
Let's lighten & brighten up your heart again- get back to feeling like you!
Start with a complimentary 15-minute secure video-phone consult & let’s see if we are a good fit!
Online Therapy
My clients love online sessions. They find it more comfortable, allowing them to relax in their own space and take notes during our sessions. Being in their everyday environment for therapy, they are applying session focus throughout the week much more than in-person therapy, accelerating their overall progress.
It's especially convenient for busy individuals since there's no need for commuting.
Rest assured, my technology is highly secure, surpassing even online banking. You can get a feel personally for it in the free initial consultation! Scheduling is quick and easy through my online system.
You may be used to being the helper, so receiving help may feel odd.
Being the helper may be “too much” of your identity. And it’s time to make room for balance.
As a natural giver, you may be used to detecting the emotions or needs of others more than yourself.
This can leave you overwhelmed with the feelings of others…while accidentally skipping over your own. Your heart continues to go on unresolved, festering in the background.
Feeling overwhelmed? You're not just managing your own stress and emotions; you're also navigating the struggles of others.
